Posted for 3/2/2013
Like any senior, I have grumbled about children who are rude and do not behave in public. The rude, ill behaved ones stand out so much we forget to look at the rest of the children.
Deb and I take our books to schools to read to the children. We have so much fun with our readings getting them to participate and enjoy the story. The "kids" in these situations are so well behaved and polite, it is a thrill to be with them. We have never found children in a group setting in schools or libraries that were not a joy to be with.
At a recent school reading, one little fellow came up and handed us a hand printed note thanking us for being there. On word was mispelled. I thought "this is what it is all about, helping childdren love books and reading. I will cherish that note and keep it as a reminder when writers block sets in, to keep working. Children want and need another book!
I think those public outbursts that upset me so are the result of poor parenting. Children aren't born wild, but some parents fail to guide them and they grow wild. Thank goodness they are the exceptions and not the rule.
I have never seen a bad child without one or both parents being there. That should tell you something. The problem is not the child.....It's the parents.
Parents should stop raising children by the Spock book. He wrote a book in the 40's that became the bible of raising children. Remember, his child committed suicide. That should tell you all you need to know about his famous way to raise children. They need love and affimation but not without guidance and discipline. They have to have rules and the rules must be enforced. I'm not telling you to beat them but you have to find a way to punish them that really makes them think twice about repeating offensive behavior.